I’ve been running some workshops on listening. I had the very first one last night and came home satisfied with my decision to have started them – people were open and contributing to the conversation with their experiences and what they were noticing during the workshop, as well as supporting each other’s learning.
What’s it for
When I trained as a professional coach, one of the biggest revelations for me personally was how much I can change a relationship by just changing the way I listen. It was clear to me from the day I myself got to do an exercise that revealed how I mostly just listen to the voice in my head, that this is something that belongs to everybody, not just coaches!!
The group I had was twice the size I would normally have for a workshop – up to 20 people – so there was minimum individual attention but as the purpose was sharing not coaching, it worked really well as a platform for just that, and there was time for questions and comments to make sure everyone got the essence of it.
Listening in coaching
Listening is the most important tool for any coach. The impact that the coach makes in the coaching relationship with a client is in direct proportion to how well the coach listens.
As coach I listen to your words, sure, but more than that I listen to your energy, pace, tone of voice, patterns and body language. At the deepest level I listen directly and indirectly to your values, beliefs, possibilities and the resources that you have within you.
My job is to show you what I ‘hear’ so that you become aware of it. Because whatever it is that you want for your life, awareness is the key to choice, and choice is the source of change.